Talking about gender can be a very broad topic. Identity, presentation, labels, roles, and so on- it’s no wonder that separate related concepts get conflated. I’ve talked to a number of GCs (gender-critical people) on Twitter who claim gender doesn’t exist; they’re gender-free, or other variations of #SexNotGender that seek to invalidate trans people’s experiences. […]
This is some prose that I was inspired to write while listening to this track from the Chrono Cross OST. (Note: I haven’t played CC, only CT, but I love the soundtrack.) Billions of light years, swirling and dancing in the dim night skyEach one, the story of an epoch gone byEach one, a different […]
A whisper through the treesCaresses early springtime leavesA chilling somber breezeKeeps me grounded; keeps me free To seize the moment and hold it tightTo quiet my mind; tease wrong from rightThe snarling demons have no powerI will not fight; I will not fight. Something new is drawing nearIs it safe, or do I fear?I cannot […]
In response to: https://medium.com/@MForstater/why-jk-rowling-isnt-anti-trans-and-neither-am-i-1e3a16f81b2c This heartfelt plea for toleration, diversity, compassion, love and peace was liked by hundreds of thousands of people and sparked off thousands of conversations. The idea that ‘sex is real’, that human beings are are male or female and that sex cannot be changed, is at the core of my current court […]
Privilege isn’t something that I grew up with a palpable sense of. It’s something that I had mixed skepticism about (well, in retrospect, how it was presented to me) and learned about in a very theoretical, sociological, almost fully removed kind of way. And I feel like I’m only really going to be able to […]
My gender does not cause me distress or discomfort. It does not interfere with my daily life. In fact, despite the huge stigma against and misunderstandings of transgender people, which do cause me some anxiety and discomfort, I still chose to accept this part of my authentic self. Expressing and affirming my gender gives me […]
I’ve definitely leaned into poly-land. I have a few partners right now, two of which I call girlfriend. But what does that mean in a poly context? What are the nuances and expectations of being a non-exclusive girlfriend? How do I veer from the monogamous script? I think it’s worthwhile for me mainly to put […]
Sex, gender, and orientation are complex. A simple model of these three might be that sex is binary (male/female), gender aligns with sex (male-man, female-woman), and orientation is constant: heterosexual (attracted exclusively to opposite gender.) I think it’s a workable start if you’re an alien species just starting to understand humans on Earth. The Earth […]
Being in queer spaces has given me exposure to different perspectives around not only gender and sexuality but also relationship dynamics. As I continue to navigate uncharted territory and rediscover who I am and what I want out of life, I find the the biggest remaining barriers are those I created myself out of a […]
adjective unchanging over time or unable to be changed. A common concept in computer programming is one where a value or object remains constant throughout its life. As a software developer for most of my life, the black-and-white reasoned logic not only guided my code but my day-to-day thinking. I should say, that way of […]